Elinor took no notice of this; and directing her attention to their visitor, endeavoured to support something like discourse with him, by talking of their present residence, its conveniences, &c. extorting from him occasional questions and remarks. His coldness and reserve mortified her severely; she was vexed and half angry; but resolving to regulate her behaviour to him by the past rather than the present, she avoided every appearance of resentment or displeasure, and treated him as she thought he ought to be treated from the family connection. ~ Sense & Sensibility
Sometimes there are people in our families, workplaces, peer groups who vex us but that doesn’t mean we should treat them as they treat us. Rather, we should treat them according to their position. Not whether they are a servant or wealthy estate owner, rather that we are all children of God, specially crafted and designed by him, bought by him with the blood of his Son.
I’m reading, “Ruth: A Diamond in the Rough,” by Rev. Dr. Edward Hernandez. In his “Principles for Understanding,” he explains that we are each a product of God’s workmanship. “Workmanship,” he goes on, carries with it the connotation of crafting a poem. He explains how we are each a poem, carefully crafted by a master poet, and a part of his library. Another analogy his uses is that of a puzzle—every living being is one piece of the puzzle of God’s picture. He has a specific purpose and design laid out for each of us. A purpose that can only be reached as we allow him to apply pressure and heat, turning us into diamonds.
Back to the original point: How we treat others should not be based on what they do but on who they are—precious works of art being handcrafted by God himself.
Next time that relation, co-worker, peer, or even enemy does something that makes you want to whip out your wand and Avada Kedavra them, remember whose they are and treat them accordingly.
Treat others the same way you want them to treat you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. If you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners in order to receive back the same amount.But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. ~ Luke 6:31-36 (NASB)
Even Harry Potter, who seemed to have every excuse for vengeance, gives that merciless slayer of his parents and many friends the chance Voldemort never gave a single sole. He treats Voldemort as any human should be treated, not as Voldemort treated others….
“It’s your last chance,” said Harry, “it’s all you’ve got left…. I’ve seen what you’ll be otherwise…. Be a man…try…Try for some remorse….” ~ Harry Potter, Deathly Hallows