Catherine was delighted with this extension of her Bath acquaintance, and almost forgot Mr. Tilney while she talked to Miss Thorpe. Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love.

Most of us who have lived through our teens, or are in our teens, know the pangs of disappointed love. That crush who has a crush on someone else. That guy or girl who said they loved us but really they liked us for the moment. That promise that was made but never intended to be kept. So, what do we do in these moments?

Austen says, turn to your friends. Friendship, true friendship is important…

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. ~ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT)

When we are alone, we are vulnerable. God created us to do life with other people, hence why it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone so God made Eve. Granted they got into a bit of trouble, but they still had each other to shoulder through.

In listening to MuggleNet Academia, a podcast that studies the Harry Potter series from various academic angles, I learned that one of the key differences between evil and good is that Evil (Voldemort) operates alone. Why? Because he trusts no one and loves no one. Good (Harry) operates with friends (Hermione, Ron, Neville, Luna, etc.). Why? Because Good would rather love and trust and be wrong than not love and trust at all.

Life is about what happens inside of us, not outside. Life is about growing in our ability and capacity to love God and others—to grow in character. The only way to do that is to have friendship with God and friendship with others. Walking alone only leads to misery and a hardened heart. Don’t be like Voldemort, trust and love God and people—they are the balm for your disappointed loves.