In this episode of Friends, Pheobe has another encounter with her evil twin sister, Ursula:

[Scene: A Street, Phoebe is walking down it and passes Ursula.]

Phoebe: Ursula! (Ursula turns, smiles, and continues walking.) Wait! Err-err, it’s me! Phoebe!

Ursula: Oh, I thought there was a mirror there. Okay, bye-bye. (Starts to walk again.)

Phoebe: Wait a second! So, what’s new with you?

Ursula: Umm, nothing. I mean, I’m getting married next week.

Phoebe: What?!

Ursula: Yeah! Yeah, it’s gonna be a small ceremony. Just family. (Phoebe looks at her.) His.

Phoebe: Huh. Okay. Well, I’m really happy for you. (Starts to walk away.)

Ursula: Wait! If umm, if you want to come, I guess that’d be okay.

Phoebe: Really?

Ursula: Sure! Why not? You could be my sister for the day.

Phoebe: Yeah. Okay. Umm, y’know, my friends are having a Halloween party tonight at my old apartment so, you could come. Maybe I could meet the guy you’re marrying.

Ursula: Huh. Well, I’m supposed to be working at the restaurant tonight. I’m supposed to be working right now, so who cares.

Phoebe: By the way, it’s a costume party.

Ursula: Oh! Okay, so that’s why you’re… (Motions to what she’s wearing.)

Phoebe: (looks down) No. But thanks. (Walks away.)

As I watched this scene unfold, it immediately hit me that Phoebe was living out Romans 12:18 (NLT), “Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” Ursula is cruel, but Phoebe lets it go and is kind in return.


But, then Pheebs meets Ursula’s fiancé and finds out Ursula is completely lying to him and intending on cheating on him when they get married. So, Pheobe has to make a critical decision, and I think she chooses right:

Phoebe: She is lying! And I bet I can prove it. Excuse me. (She grabs Ursula’s purse and starts going through it and finds some papers.) Okay. Okay. Yeah—Not a prayer chain, but what looks like a detailed drawing of a bank floor plan. (Holds up her nametag.) Okay, here’s the nametag from the restaurant where she works as a waitress! Not a teacher, a waitress. All right, here’s her driver license, this oughta be good, she always lies about this. How old did she say she was?

Eric: She told me she was 25.

Phoebe: Oh, I almost don’t want to show this. (Hands it to him.) Just remember I’m a minute younger.

Phoebe struggles to keep the peace until she realizes to do that she has to let Ursula harm an innocent man.

Once again I realized Pheobe was living out scripture: Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act. (Proverbs 3:27 NIV)


And this is why it is so important to have a comprehensive knowledge of scripture and not to just cherry pick verses. The Bible isn’t black and white. It is to be studied, learned, and applied with love.

Keep the peace, but not so far as it prevents you from doing good for another. Obey the law, but not so far as it prevents you from loving others.

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