DUMBLEDORE: We cannot protect the young from harm. Pain must and will come.
HARRY: So I’m supposed to stand and watch?
DUMBLEDORE: No. You’re supposed to teach him how to meet life.
Though I didn’t like Harry’s disrespectful responses to Dumbledore’s portrait, especially after naming his son after the Headmaster — and it’s hard for me to picture Harry not addressing him as Professor — I do enjoy Dumbledore’s lines in Cursed Child.
Harry’s having a tough go of it in the parenting department when it comes to his middle child, Albus. Dumbledore’s response is that Harry needs to stop trying to protect Albus from every harm and pain that could come his way and to start teaching him how to meet what life will through at him.
Granted, Dumbledore’s style of fathering is a bit too hands off, though Harry does turn out well in the end. But, Harry trying to protect Albus from every evil is unrealistic and hindering. The fact is that we will all eventually be met with some sort of evil. As parents, we can either prepare our children while we can still protect them, or we can send them out into the world clueless.
Sadly, many parents take the “clueless” route thinking that sparing their children any pain at all is the most loving method. I disagree, and I think God does too.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. ~ Proverbs 22:6 ESV
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. ~ Proverbs 29:15 ESV
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. ~ Proverbs 13:24 ESV
It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline? If you are left without discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. ~ Hebrews 12:7-11 ESV
Parents train and discipline children that:
- They consider theirs.
- They love.
Why? Becuase the job of a parent is to train up a successful, loving, Christ-like child, NOT to make a BFF who depends on their parents until death do they part.
Note: This does not mean you should harm your child by physically abusing them.