DRACO: …Because as much as you might take the word of a haughty centaur, you know the power of friendship.
DRACO: …You – the three of you — you shone, you know? You liked each other. You had fun. I envied you those friendships more than anything else.
GINNY: I envied them too.
But why do we envy them?
I observed yet another example of something meaningless under the sun. This is the case of a man who is all alone, without a child or a brother, yet who works hard to gain as much wealth as he can. But then he asks himself, “Who am I working for? Why am I giving up so much pleasure now?” It is all so meaningless and depressing.
Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. ~ Ecclesiastes 4:7-12 NLT
Ecclesiastes is probably one of the most depressing books of the Bible, but it was written by the wisest man ever to live — King Solomon — and thus is full of wisdom. Here, I think Solomon is trying to express the point that humans are made for relationships, that is where we find our meaning. Which, I also believe is why we grow depressed when we focus on living for ourselves. We aren’t meant to live for ourselves, we are meant to live for others.
Thou shalt love thy fellow man as much as thyself. ~ Jesus, Matthew 22:39 WEY
No one has greater love than this—a man laying down his life for his friends. ~ Jesus, John 15:13 WEY
The Golden Trio
That is what the Trio has. Harry, Ron, and Hermione don’t just live for themselves, they live for each other—they lay down their lives for each other. They share their victories, defeats, fears, goals, accomplishments, failures, heartbreaks, etc. This is what makes their friendship so enviable and so durable.
At the beginning of Deathly Hallows, it would have been best for Hermione’s self-interest to go with her parents to Australia and live as a Muggle. It would have been best for Ron to disaffiliate himself with Harry—as Percy suggested—and return to Hogwarts. It would have been best for Harry to hide out in 12 Grimmauld Place and have Dobby bring him food from the Hogwarts kitchen.
That is what their lives would have looked like if they lived for themselves. And King Solomon is right—lives serving their self-interests would have been very meaningless. Rather, we love the Golden Trio because they don’t do what serves them best, they do what serves each other and the world around them best.
If we want Golden Trio friendships, we’ve got to stop just “doing what makes us happy” and we have to start doing things that serve others. By living a “do what I can for others” life, we will find great meaning and great friends to share our life with.
Being a great friend attracts great friendships.